The Gaming Bitch writes about women and games (emphasis mine):
Women identify themselves as Girl Gamers and are proud of the moniker. They put up with the images in games, because they really like to game. Here’s the thing though, women are at a disadvantage in the world of computer games, and no matter what, a man will never fully comprehend it. He might understand some of it, and he might be able to empathize, but he cannot fully understand what it’s like to play a game and have someone surprised that you’re a girl, or worse, tell you that you play like a guy. Oh, it’s usually preceded with “No offense”, but I just can’t get over the fact that my play style is considered to be the exclusive domain of men. Despite being on a vent server with some friends and my voice very clearly belonging to a woman, they were shocked that I was really a girl.
Someone told me to take it as a compliment “‘You’ve gotta be good if they think you’re a guy.’ Someone else told me that they didn’t mean to offend me. Well sure, don’t take offense at an extremely sexist statement, it wasn’t intended to be offensive, so it’s perfectly benign. But it’s not. It’s a stereotype that is potentially damaging. I am a woman who is relatively secure, well-balanced and pretty certain of herself as a woman and yet it bothered me. Imagine a 12 or 14 year old girl is told that she plays like a guy? She is in essence being told that the good players are guys; therefore, she can never be a good player and a girl.
I haven’t got much to add to her post, as it’s very good.
I will note that I am slightly disappointed by her opening paragraph in which she supports the feminist ideals of equality, so long as she isn’t labeled a feminist because she’s an atypical feminist if at all. There are all sorts of feminists, and they all don’t agree with each other on all issues. It’s not bad or wrong to be a feminist, just as it isn’t bad or wrong to be a conservative. The problem is that we probably see the more extreme examples of these viewpoints in the media, and people just assume that everyone in those groups are the same.